Why Self-Control Is the Key to Freedom

by | Sep 23, 2021 | Blogs, Straight Talk

We all have hopes and dreams for our lives — whether it’s to buy a house, get in shape physically, have success at our jobs, grow spiritually or any other goal that’s in our hearts.

However, if we want to make progress in life, it’s going to require self-control. I realize this isn’t a very popular topic but self-control is one of the best friends we can ever have because it brings us freedom.

What does it really mean to be free? Many people think it means you should be able to do what you want, when you want and never have to suffer any of the consequences. But God’s Word tells us that we reap what we sow (see Galatians 6:7).

Sure, we can choose to do what we want; however, every choice we make is a seed that will produce a harvest in our lives — either for good or bad.

Freedom is not simply the liberty to do whatever we want. True freedom is having the ability and discipline not to do something if it means we will be happier with the results in the long run.

Self-control is one of the best gifts God has given us. It helps us say yes to what we truly want to say yes to … and it helps us say no when we want to say no.

For instance, my husband, Dave, and I ate at a restaurant that makes some of the best lobster bisque soup I have ever tasted; it’s so smooth and creamy, and it has just the right amount of flavor. I instantly began thinking about going back the next day.

The truth is I could choose to eat that soup every night but I know my body and what I need to do to maintain my weight. And while I want the soup, I want to stay in shape and remain healthy even more.

Galatians 5:17 (NIV) says, “For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other.”

The “flesh” represents the desires and cravings of our bodies and souls apart from the Holy Spirit. Many times our flesh wants something that the Holy Spirit says is not good for us; however, as we learn to follow the direction of the Holy Spirit, that is when we become truly free.

Galatians 5:16 (NIV) says if you “walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.”

The Lord wants to help us make wise choices. I often say that wisdom is doing now what you will be happy with later. Even if a good decision isn’t comfortable for our flesh in the moment, it will produce good results later on.

God has already provided everything we need to have great lives but it’s up to us to walk it out — and we do that by making good choices (2 Pet. 1:3). Good decisions produce good results.

We make choices every day: how we think, what we’re going to say, what attitude we take … We can choose to forgive someone when they don’t treat us the way they should. Or we can choose to say something kind to someone when everything in us wants to say something mean.

Always remember, when you choose to do what is right — especially when you don’t feel like it — that is when you will see good results!

I love 1 Corinthians 6:12. It says, “‘I have the right to do anything,’ you say—but not everything is beneficial. ‘I have the right to do anything’—but I will not be mastered by anything” (NIV).

This Scripture is saying we can choose to do whatever we want but not everything is good for us. So, when we feel tempted by something that isn’t good for us, we need to stop and think, If I do this now, how will it affect me later on?

I am so glad that I’m no longer controlled by a cookie or an overwhelming desire to have to buy every new outfit I see at the shopping mall. Operating in self-control and choosing to do what I really want is true freedom.

Wherever you are in life right now, God has a great plan for your future. And He not only wants to lead you and show you what to do but He also wants to give you the grace to do it!

Ask the Holy Spirit for the guidance and strength to make good choices, then begin making decisions today that you will be happy with tomorrow. As you do, you’ll be amazed at the results … and you will experience the wonderful freedom of self-control.

For more on this topic, order Joyce’s four-teaching CD series Living a Life of Total Freedom. You can also contact us to receive our free magazine, Enjoying Everyday Life, by calling (800) 727-9673 or visiting joycemeyer.org.

Please note: The views and opinions expressed throughout this publication and/or website are those of the respective authors and do not necessarily reflect those of Joyce Meyer Ministries. {eoa}

Joyce Meyer is a New York Times bestselling author and founder of Joyce Meyer Ministries, Inc. She has authored 130 books, including Battlefield of the Mind and How to Age Without Getting Old (FaithWords). She hosts the Enjoying Everyday Life radio and TV programs, which air on hundreds of stations worldwide. For more information, visit joycemeyer.org.

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