Don’t Be Afraid To Fail

by | Dec 24, 2008 | Purpose & Identity

by John Stanko
At a Glance
  • Question: Is failure a learning experience?
  • Question: Can we often learn more from failure than from success?
  • Question: Are we always to be learning and growing?
Have you ever failed at anything in your life? Do you know anyone who has?

If you’ve been around long enough, the answer to both questions is a
resounding “yes!” That means you know how difficult it can be to bounce back
from a failure, especially if you are a Christian. Believers seem to think that
spiritual people will always do the right thing, and that a misstep or failure
is a sign that our spirituality is deficient.

Yet with faith, it is possible to be even stronger after a failure. Numerous
biblical figures, including Peter, Moses, David and Abraham demonstrated this


When I conduct seminars on this topic, I lead people through the following

Question: Is failure a learning experience? Answer: Yes.

Question: Can we often learn more from failure than from success?
Answer: Yes.

Question: Are we always to be learning and growing? Answer:

I consider the most significant redemptive failure in the Bible to be Samson.
Samson is mentioned as a hero of the faith in Hebrews 11, right along with Moses
and Abraham. “And what more shall I say? For the time would fail me to tell of
Gideon and Barak and Samson,” the writer of Hebrews tells us (v. 32, NKJV).

When Samson’s name is mentioned, there is no asterisk or footnote pointing
out what a colossal failure he was. In fact, it was his faith during a time of
failure that earned him this honorable mention.

Let’s look at three lessons we can learn from Samson’s life. If you don’t
know his story, take time now to read about him in Judges 13:1-16:31.

1. God is often leading you, even though you may not know it.

The Bible tells us regarding Samson: “Now Samson went down to Timnah, and saw
a woman in Timnah of the daughters of the Philistines. So he went up and told
his father and mother, saying, ‘I have seen a woman in Timnah of the daughters
of the Philistines; now therefore, get her for me as a wife.’ Then his father
and mother said to him, ‘Is there no woman among the daughters of your brethren,
or among all my people, that you must go and get a wife from the uncircumcised

“And Samson said to his father, ‘Get her for me, for she pleases me well.’
But his father and mother did not know that it was of the Lord–that He was
seeking an occasion to move against the Philistines. For at that time the
Philistines had dominion over Israel” (Judg. 14:1-4).

Notice that Samson’s parents did not realize his request for a wife from
among the Philistines was prompted by God. In a similar way, God is working in
your life to fulfill your purpose whether you realize it or not. It doesn’t
matter what you can see or understand. Faith requires that you believe God is at
work in your life, even in the failures and hardship.

Once I was driving someplace and got lost. The delay made me late for an
important meeting. I was so distressed that I was not on time–punctuality is
one of my highest values. Yet several years later I encountered a situation in
which I was able to use the same roads I was on when I was lost to get to
another place I needed to go. God was using my failure to prepare me for future

I know this example doesn’t seem significant in view of the much bigger
issues we face in life, but doesn’t the end result hold true for more crucial
failures, such as relational breakdowns or business losses, as well? God uses
our failures, which can be monumental at the time, to prepare us for some future

In Samson’s case, his family didn’t understand what was going on, and neither
did Samson. God was leading him, however–positioning him right where God wanted
him to be so he could do what the Lord wanted him to do.

It may not seem as if God is leading you, but He is. When you feel as if He
isn’t there, trust Him more, not less. Put your hope in the God of your purpose
and move on. Have faith in God, even in the midst of a seeming failure.

2. Don’t ignore or run from your past; face it.

Samson’s story continues: “So Samson went down to Timnah with his father and
mother, and came to the vineyards of Timnah. Now to his surprise, a young lion
came roaring against him. And the Spirit of the Lord came mightily upon him, and
he tore the lion apart as one would have torn apart a young goat, though he had
nothing in his hand. But he did not tell his father or his mother what he had

“Then he went down and talked with the woman; and she pleased Samson well.
After some time, when he returned to get her, he turned aside to see the carcass
of the lion. And behold, a swarm of bees and honey were in the carcass of the
lion. He took some of it in his hands and went along, eating. When he came to
his father and mother, he gave some to them, and they also ate. But he did not
tell them that he had taken the honey out of the carcass of the lion” (Judg.

I would argue that your most significant and life-giving testimonies are not
the great successes you’ve had but your greatest failures and the way in which
God helped you recover from them. Like Samson, you may have wrestled some lions
such as loneliness, bankruptcy, broken relationships and unemployment. Even if
you are young, you undoubtedly have testimonies of defeating, through the power
of God, lions that came to destroy you.

When Samson returned to the lion he had torn apart with his bare hands, it
brought forth something sweet that fed both him and his parents, even though it
was dead. What is in your past that you thought was dead? Is it a failure, or
something you enjoyed doing but no longer do? Or is it a significant victory
that you don’t talk about anymore?

Perhaps it’s time to revisit that and see if there is something sweet in it.
In faith, go back over the lessons you learned during a time of failure and see
if they can help you or someone else today. Use those lessons to write a book or
screenplay, counsel others or simply encourage yourself as you face today’s
trials. When you faithfully recount your victories in the midst of failures, God
will help you bring forth something sweet.

3. When you fail, run to God–not from Him.

If you are familiar with Samson’s story, you will recall that after falling
in love with the Philistine woman, Samson unwittingly gave her the secret to his
strength–his uncut hair. The Philistines used this knowledge to take his
strength away, and he ended up shaved, blind and in prison. But while he was
incarcerated, God prepared him for his ultimate victory, described in the
passage below.

“So it happened, when their hearts were merry, that they said, ‘Call for
Samson, that he may perform for us.’ So they called for Samson from the prison,
and he performed for them. And they stationed him between the pillars. Then
Samson said to the lad who held him by the hand, ‘Let me feel the pillars which
support the temple, so that I can lean on them.’

“Now the temple was full of men and women. All the lords of the Philistines
were there–about three thousand men and women on the roof watching while Samson
performed. Then Samson called to the Lord, saying, ‘O Lord God, remember me, I
pray! Strengthen me, I pray, just this once, O God, that I may with one blow
take vengeance on the Philistines for my two eyes!’

“And Samson took hold of the two middle pillars which supported the temple,
and he braced himself against them, one on his right and the other on his left.
Then Samson said, ‘Let me die with the Philistines!’ And he pushed with all his
might, and the temple fell on the lords and all the people who were in it. So
the dead that he killed at his death were more than he had killed in his life”
(Judg. 16:25-30).

Earlier in this chapter we find a significant verse: “However, the hair of
his head began to grow again after it had been shaven” (Judg. 16:22). Even
though Samson failed, the source of his strength (his hair) began to return when
he focused again on fulfilling God’s purpose for his life.

At this point in the story, however, Samson was a miserable failure, or so it
seemed. He was defeated, blinded and forced to entertain his enemies. Yet Samson
prayed and God heard him, and he literally brought the house down at his last

You have to admire Samson’s faith. If failure disqualifies someone, then why
was he praying? What right did he have to ask God for another chance? And why
did God hear his prayer? God didn’t seem to mind that Samson was a faithful

We too must overcome our tendency to run from God when we fail. We inherited
that trait from Adam and Eve, who hid from God in the garden after they
disobeyed Him (see Gen. 3:8). In faith, we must overcome the tendency of running
from God and substitute it with a habit of running to God. The Scriptures assure
us that we can approach God boldly, just as Samson did, even when we fail.

“For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses,
but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come
boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help
in time of need” (Heb. 4:15-16).

What lessons can you learn from Samson’s failures? How can you apply them to
your current situation? Is it time to trust God even though it seems as if
nothing is happening in your life? Is it time to re-evaluate your past through
the eyes of faith and see if there is a failure-turned-victory that can yield
something useful for Him and others?

Take time to write out your answers on a piece of paper or in your journal.
Put down your thoughts as you study Samson’s life. Then look at the lessons from
other faithful failures such as Moses, David and Peter. Use their profiles to
map out a faith path to recovery, turning your failures into wonderful learning
lessons for you and others.

If Samson made it, so can you, but only if you don’t allow your failures to
derail you. Having faith in God will keep you on the right path and will help
make you into a “faith-full” failure, as Samson was.


John Stanko is president of PurposeQuest International, through which he
has helped people worldwide find their purpose. You can reach John at his blog,


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