I’m single and I want to get married someday, but my No. 1 fear is that I’ll end up like Jon and Kate Gosselin. The thought of watching my husband flaunt another woman in the national media, giving inquiring minds a front-row seat into my marriage, is enough to keep me away from any altar.
The Gosselins appeared to be a loving couple when they first appeared on reality TV years ago. They willingly invited us into their home and shared their unpredictable lives as parents to twins and sextuplets. But the show eventually revealed their many flaws.
Kate at times seemed berating and controlling, and Jon appeared weak, letting his wife emasculate him before millions of viewers. Season after season, Jon & Kate Plus 8 became less about the children and more about mom and dad. I don’t know what went wrong in their marriage, but they are separated and have filed for divorce.
Jon and Kate, unfortunately, are no different from millions of born-again believers who divorce each year. Research shows that half of all Christian marriages end up in divorce court—just like people who do not profess Christ. What a sad commentary. How will the church ever convince the world that Jesus can heal and revitalize marriages if Christians don’t stay married and be willing to let Him work in them?
I know there is hope for couples like the Gosselins. My parents have been married for more than 50 years and have had some trying, if not terrible, situations to overcome, but they say they work at being married every day.
But what do I know? I’m just a single woman on a soapbox having my say. I do know that if God’s Spirit can raise Jesus from the dead, He can restore broken marriages no matter how shattered they seem.
If you watch the clip below, it appears as though it’s too late for Jon and Kate. But if we commit them and other couples we know to prayer, there is no telling what the Holy Spirit will do with their cooperation. Scripture says, “Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matt. 19:6, NKJV).