At the very least, you are a three-dimensional being. Paul writes in I Thessalonians 5:23, “May the very God of peace sanctify you completely. And I pray to God that your whole spirit, soul, and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
This verse states that we are at least three-dimensional creatures. As a man you have a spirit. The spirit part of you understands and has intuition beyond just your brain. You also have an amazing soul. The soul is your mind and processes faster than any computer and utilizes logic, at least most of the time.
Your soul also composes your will. The human will is probably one of the strongest forces on earth. Our soul has emotions. Emotions are not truth; however, they provide a way to interact with God, others and the environment.
Finally, you have a body. Some of your bodies are in amazing shape. Some male bodies—well, there are all kinds of shapes. Whatever your body type is, it is incredibly unique to you.
I always thought it was odd in my family that we were all so different. My hair and eyes are such a dark brown that they are almost black. My next sibling has lighter brown hair and eyes, the next red hair and blue eyes, and the last has blond hair and lighter eyes. We were all amazingly different in hair and eye color.
Your spirit, soul and body are just the tip of the iceberg of your amazing creation as a man. Let me expand a little further than Paul did. You are a man in relationship. You have had a relationship as a son to your parents, possibly as a brother to a sibling. You have been in relationships to your neighbors and community throughout your life. You were a student relating to various teachers and fellow students. You, at some point, had a relationship with God.
You also have probably had relationships as an employee. You have had a variety of relationships with co-workers in work environments. You have had numerous romantic relationships. You have a unique sexual and financial history.
You also have had spiritual relationships with various clergy and church members. You have had fun of various kinds, including vacations, sports and creating.
You may be single or married. If married, you have another unique experience being married to another unique being. You may have children or even grandchildren. You’ve probably had amazing successes in life and also some challenges.
My point is this: You are way more than just another pretty face. For anyone to view you just this way is what I call photograph thinking. You are not a photograph; you are more like a hologram, multi-faceted in every dimension. To see you as one-dimensional is not to see you at all.
I am sure you know I didn’t spend all this time telling you how amazing you are for no reason. The reason I want you to see the multifaceted being that you are, is so that you can see the hologram of each woman, instead of a one-dimensional face and body.
Every woman you see has a spirit. She is a spirit being placed in a body by God. God uniquely created her, She was created for God, and she will ultimately return to God at the end of her life. She has intuition, and from first-hand reports of the many women I’ve counseled over the years, they can sense when someone is lusting after them. They describe this as feeling slimed.
Every woman you see is an amazing soul. Her mind is full of information and wisdom. She has an amazing will that is utilized often in her life. She has emotions that have indefinable ranges and can be experienced by everyone she influences.
She has an amazing and unique face as well as body. She is beautiful, yet this is just a fraction of who she is. Just like you, she is much more than the three dimensions of spirit, soul and body.
She is way more than her body parts or a face, which is the box many men try to put women into. She is a daughter of God that would take decades to get to know and understand. Seeing every woman as a hologram can be really helpful. A woman is more amazing than her packaging, and only one man who is willing to lay down his life for her in marriage will be fortunate enough to get the privilege of truly knowing her.
So when you see a woman, know she is a holy hologram and entirely a daughter of the most high God. Each woman is specifically created and given life by God; each woman is created for God; and each woman will eventually face God. When she does face Him, you want her to say you protected her. You did not add to her suffering in any manner.
You are the protector of the holiness of women, because you are not just a man, you are a man of God. You can have spiritual eyes to see holiness when you see a woman. As you walk in this clean life, you will be blessed. God loves to bless men who at any cost protect His holy daughters.
Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Clean. You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, drdougweiss.com or on his Facebook, by phone at 719-278-3708 or through email at email@example.com.