Encourage Healthy Relationships With These Common Spirit-Filled Attributes

by | Jan 27, 2021 | Family & Relationships

I remember back in 2012, I was asked to speak at a large church conference. The speaking schedule was very intense. I was scheduled to speak for 8 hours each day: 3 hours in the morning, 3 hours in the evening and then 2 hours more at night. Knowing how rigorous my schedule was, the church offered to have different couples take me to very nice restaurants for lunch and dinner so that I would be able to relax and enjoy some good food between sessions. What they didn’t tell me was that each of the couples hosting me were on the priority list for emergency marriage counseling. The atmosphere at each of these meals was awkward, tense and even hostile.

One evening at dinner, after listening to yet another round of negative and shaming comments, I finally said, “Stop it!”

I turned to the man and said, “What if your wife spoke to you with the fruits of the Spirit: with peace, gentleness and patience?”

He said, “I would love that.”

I asked the same thing of his wife. Her answer was the same. Over the rest of the meal, they came to understand how the negativity in their relationship had created an unhealthy atmosphere that not only affected each other but also the people around them.

You see, relationships are the key to creating atmospheres. The way we treat people directly impacts the environment around us because it usually is reciprocated back to us. The famous Scripture, “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you” (Luke 6:31), is a wise and powerful command.

Our relationship with God is the best example for learning how to love others. We should look to our relationship with Him as our first source for learning how to love other people.

How would you feel if someone you were in relationship with treated you with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control? That is the way that we are treated everyday in our relationship with God, and this should be our model for every relationship in our lives, whether it be with a spouse, friend, child, sibling, parent or work colleague.

We have the power to create healthy atmospheres by choosing to intentionally exercise the fruit of the Spirit in the way we treat the people around us.

For more on how you can use your words to encourage Spirit-filled relationships, listen to Transform Your Life on the Charisma Podcast Network. {eoa}

Steve Chua works globally as a pastor, counselor and executive life and leadership coach. His message helps people discover their God-given design and employ strategies to reject false mindsets so that they can live with the success, joy and fulfillment for which they were created. Steve resides in Claremont, California, and has been married to his beautiful wife, Barbara, for over 29 years. Together they have five incredible kids.

CHARISMA NEWSLETTERS

Stay up-to-date with current issues, Christian teachings, entertainment news, videos & more.

The latest breaking Christian news you need to know about as soon as it happens.

Prophetic messages from respected leaders & news of how God is moving throughout the world. 


MORE FROM CHARISMA

Charisma Highlights: Is Serial Killer Jeffrey Dahmer in Heaven?

Charisma Highlights: Is Serial Killer Jeffrey Dahmer in Heaven?

Following are snippets of the top stories posted on charismamag.com over the past week. We encourage you to visit the links to read the stories in full. Is Serial Killer Jeffrey Dahmer in Heaven? Is it possible that behind the pearly gates of heaven there are...

10 Ways to Practice Gratitude With Your family This Thanksgiving

10 Ways to Practice Gratitude With Your family This Thanksgiving

This month we are entering a season which, in the United States, has been devoted to gratitude and thanksgiving for 400 years! While the Thanksgiving holiday has had a long and varied history within the United States, the practice of devoting sacrificial offerings,...

Don’t Let Ungratefulness Turn You Into a Spoiled American

Don’t Let Ungratefulness Turn You Into a Spoiled American

My frequent trips to developing nations always help me adjust my attitude. Just when I start to feel spoiled and entitled, I meet people from places like Congo, India and Honduras—and I realize just how blessed I am. This happened to me again last week during a trip...

The Power of Being Thankful

The Power of Being Thankful

One of the best ways to show God we love Him is to be thankful. When we express our deep gratitude to Him, it actually invites His presence onto our lives. Being thankful also neutralizes the enemy and brings victory into our situations no matter what the outcome....

Get Off Your Pew!

Get Off Your Pew!

As God’s clock inches closer to the final hour before His return, many people find themselves filled with angst, anxiety and despair. People are not sleeping well, many have fallen into depression and are feeling hopeless. These are the very days that we have been...

The Great Commission Can Set Us Free from Responsibility

The Great Commission Can Set Us Free from Responsibility

Read Time: 4 Minutes 28 Seconds While all of the stories we read in the Torah are meaningful, sometimes the events we read about can seem to hold more relevance, especially for those of us who are followers of Yeshua (Jesus) as Messiah. One such event is the calling...

RECENT ARTICLES

The Church’s Role in Preserving Freedom of Speech in America

Read Time: 3 Minutes 17 Seconds The controversy surrounding Kyrie Irving and his post of a tweet that claims the Jews in Israel are not the real Jews—that Black Africans are the real Jews—raises...
Count Your Blessings, For God Indeed is Good

Count Your Blessings, For God Indeed is Good

Read Time: 4 Minutes 42 Seconds Thanksgiving Day is just a few days away for U.S. Americans. It is a favorite holiday—perhaps only exceeded by Christmas—to gather with family and friends to watch parades, play (American) “football” and eat delicious food—often from...

Is Serial Killer Jeffrey Dahmer in Heaven?

Is Serial Killer Jeffrey Dahmer in Heaven?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iFbfS03JkKY&t=1s Read Time: 3 Minutes, 10 Seconds Is it possible that behind the pearly gates of heaven there are murderers, pedophiles and cannibals walking along the streets of gold? We are taught in the book of Romans, "That if...

Pin It on Pinterest