10 Lies the Church Tells Women

by | Nov 17, 2010 | Old Magazine Articles

Here are 10 erroneous views about women that for
too long have been circulated in the church, preached from pulpits and
written in the study notes of popular Bible translations. I believe we
must debunk these lies if we want to see the church fully released to
fulfill the Great Commission.

Lie #1. God’s ultimate plan for women is that they serve their husbands.

How sad that so many Christian men view women from a
selfish perspective. This view is often promoted by misreading the
account of Eve’s creation in Genesis 2:18-25, in which Adam is provided
a “helpmate.” The Hebrew word used here often is translated
“companion,” denoting intimacy and partnership. But through the
centuries it has been used to imply that Eve was some type of domestic

We men have assumed that God gave Eve to fulfill Adam’s
sexual needs as well as to serve as his cook, laundress and maid. But
the Genesis account does not say this.

After Eve’s creation, God did not tell her: “You are
Adam’s helper; I command you to serve him well.” She was not created
for servitude; she was fashioned to be a co-laborer with Adam so that
they might rule together over creation as God commissioned them to do
(see Gen. 1:28).

Lie #2. Women can’t be fulfilled or spiritually effective without a husband.

From the time she was released from a German death camp
in 1944 until her death in 1983, Corrie Ten Boom taught the world about
a Savior who could forgive the cruelest Nazi. Yet she never married.
Did the fact that she did not have a husband make her less “complete”?
Some Christians would say yes.

We have spent so much energy defending the concept of the
biblical family that we are guilty of idolizing it. We’ve preached that
a woman’s primary responsibility is to find a godly husband, have lots
of babies and stay home to raise them for Christ.

But marital status is not a qualifier for ministry. The
Bible does not even state whether certain key followers of Jesus, such
as the 12 disciples, were married or not.

The highest calling of all believers—married or
unmarried—is to develop a relationship with Jesus. Any other earthly
relationship is secondary, and Christ Himself warned us never to allow
people we love to become idols that distract us from Him.

Lie #3. Women shouldn’t work outside the home.

Many evangelical churches have preached that women who
work outside the home are breaking a scriptural commandment, but this
conclusion can be reached only by distorting the biblical record. The
woman described in Proverbs 31 is often used to bolster a traditional
view of the June Cleaver-style matron who spends her day baking
casseroles while her husband is at the office. But a careful reading
reveals that the Proverbs 31 woman, in her ancient Middle Eastern
context, functioned as a real estate agent and ran a textile business.

Titus 2:5 instructs women to “take care of their homes”
(New Living Translation). But most scholars would agree that this
passage simply exhorts married women not to forsake their children.

It is true that, because of ambition or materialism, some
Christian women neglect their children even though the Holy Spirit has
urged them to put their career objectives on hold. But rather than
placing a legalistic burden on women by telling them that having a
career is ungodly, we should tell both men and women to submit their
career plans to the Holy Spirit’s direction.

Lie #4. Women must obediently submit to their husbands in all situations.

A distraught Christian woman who was regularly beaten by
her husband finally gained the courage to seek counsel from her pastor.
After she told him about her husband’s fits of rage, the pastor
responded, “If your husband kills you, it will be to the glory of God.”

The pastor reached this irresponsible conclusion because
of a distorted view of “male headship.” We often portray marriage as a
hierarchy, with husbands on the throne and wives at the footstool, and
we use Scripture to justify this view: “Wives…submit to your husbands
as you do to the Lord” (Eph. 5:22).

We assume this verse means women have no say in family
matters or that their opinion is second-rate. In extreme cases, women
have been told to submit to abuse in order to honor male headship. But
this is not a Christian view.

Paul also told the Ephesians, “submit to one another”
(5:21, emphasis added). I have heard teachings by male clergy on the
subject of male headship, but I’ve never heard a pastor encourage men
to submit to their wives! Yet in a loving marriage, a man and woman
will defer to one another as they make decisions.

In my 16 years of marriage, my wife and I have had plenty
of disagreements. But when we reach an impasse, I don’t announce, “I am
the head of this house, so what I say goes.” Rather, Deborah and I
either agree to pray about the matter, or we choose to defer to one

The point is never who is in charge. I view my wife as an equal. I am not “over her.” We function as one.

Lie #5. A man needs to “cover” a woman in her ministry activities.

This idea came from a distorted interpretation of the
apostle Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 11:3, “the head of woman is man”
(NKJV). People have used these words to bolster the idea that women are
subservient to men or that they cannot approach God without a male
authority figure in their lives.

Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 11 about head coverings
is a difficult passage, and Bible scholars don’t agree on its meaning.
However, most teach that Paul is addressing specific cultural concerns
in first-century Corinth and that he is calling for propriety and order
in a society where immorality and paganism had blurred gender

Paul was not placing men in a position of generic
rulership over women. Because there is “no male or female in Christ”
(see Gal. 3:28), women can pray, worship, study the Bible or minister
without a man present. How silly to think that a man, because of his
gender, could add credibility to prayer or Spirit-empowered ministry!
To believe this would be to trust in the flesh.

Lie #6. A woman should view her husband as the “priest of the home.”

Search your concordance. Scripture never describes men as
“priests of the home.” This man-made concept was popularized in
evangelical churches in the last century. We have one priest, Jesus
Christ, whose blood atoned for our sins. It is a mockery of the gospel
to suggest that any human being needs an additional priest apart from
the Son of God.

The Bible says all believers are priests (see 1 Pet. 2:9,
Rev. 1:6); there is no gender restriction. Husbands function as priests
when they pray for their families or when they minister the Word of God
to them, and wives also function in this role.

My experience in marriage has been that God speaks both
to me and to my wife. He doesn’t say to me, “Since you are the head of
this house, I’ll tell you my plans for your family, and you can tell
the others what I said.” Often God has revealed His plans to my wife
before I heard anything!

Christian men need to stop being defensive and recognize
that God has called us to function in unity with our wives. We need to
listen to their counsel, consider their opinions, and pray together for
the mind of the Lord rather than putting our foot down and shouting, “I
am the leader of this family, and what I say goes!”

Lie #7. Women are not equipped to assume leadership roles.

The most common mistake we make in biblical
interpretation occurs when we take one isolated verse and build a
doctrine around it—even if the verse seems to contradict other
passages. This is often what we do with 1 Tim. 2:12, “I do not allow a
woman to teach or exercise authority over a man” (NASB).

Most theologians believe that this passage was addressing
an isolated situation in Ephesus. They came to this conclusion after
studying the myriad of references in the Bible to women in spiritual
authority. The Old Testament records that Deborah was a judge over
Israel—and God blessed her leadership in battle (see Judg. 4-5). Other
women who held authority over men include Miriam, Huldah and Noadiah.

Jesus issued His first gospel commission to women (see
Matt. 28:1-10), and both men and women were empowered to preach on the
day of Pentecost (Acts 2:1-4). Priscilla, Chloe and Phoebe were leaders
in the early church, and one woman, Junia, is called an apostle by Paul
(Rom. 16:7).

The promise of the prophet Joel was that “sons and
daughters” would prophesy after the Holy Spirit was given to the church
(Joel 2:28, emphasis added). Yet we have taken one misunderstood verse
from Paul’s writings and used it to negate hundreds of other passages
that support the full release of women into ministry.

Lie #8: Women must not teach or preach to men in a church setting.

Since 1 Timothy 2:12 obviously contradicts the overall
biblical endorsement of women in authority, how are we to understand
it? What is Paul actually saying in this passage?

In their book I Suffer Not a Woman, Richard and Catherine
Clark Kroeger explain that certain cultic worship practices involving
female priestesses of Diana had invaded the first-century church. These
priestesses promoted blasphemous ideas about sex and spirituality, and
they sometimes performed rituals in which they pronounced curses on men
and declared female superiority.

What Paul was most likely saying to the Ephesians was
this: “I do not allow a woman to teach these cultic heresies, nor do I
allow them to usurp authority from men by performing pagan rituals.” He
was not saying, as some Christians have assumed, “I do not allow godly
Christian women to teach the Bible.” In his day, Paul would have been
thrilled to have had more skilled women who could teach the truth!

Lie #9. Women are more easily deceived than men.

This idea has been taught by twisting the meaning of 1
Timothy 2:14, which says, “It was not Adam who was deceived, but the
woman being quite deceived, fell into transgression” (NLT). Some have
suggested that because Eve was tricked by the devil, women have a
stronger propensity toward deception. Others have gone so far as to
insist that women are to blame for all the evil in the world and are
therefore under a greater curse than men.

No respectable Bible scholar in the church today would
promote such a view. The Bible clearly states that Adam and Eve were
both held guilty by God for their disobedience, and they were both
punished. In 1 Timothy, Paul cited the creation account not to place
extra blame on Eve but to refute a bizarre teaching that was
circulating in Asia Minor.

In the first century, Gnostic heretics were mixing
Christianity with paganism. One of their teachings stated that Eve
actually liberated the world when she disobeyed God and gained secret
knowledge from the devil.

Paul was not teaching that women are more prone to
deception. He was explaining that what Eve did was not right, and that
the Christian view of the creation was that Adam and Eve sinned when
they listened to the serpent.

Women are certainly capable of spreading deception
because they have a fallen nature as men do, but there is no evidence
that they have greater gullibility. That view is rooted in demeaning
stereotypes and prejudice.

Lie #10: Women who exhibit strong leadership qualities have a “spirit of Jezebel.”

Once I was listening to Bible teacher Cindy Jacobs speak
at a prayer conference in Colorado. When she approached the pulpit, two
men who were sitting in front of me turned to each other and began to
pray softly.

“Lord, we bind the power of the devil from bewitching
this audience,” one man said, adding, “We bind the power of Jezebel in
the name of Jesus.” These men believed that the crowd would
automatically come under a spirit of deception when Jacobs taught
them—simply because she was a woman.

How absurd! Was Barak “deceived” when he took orders from
Deborah? (See Judg. 4:14.) Did baby Jesus come under a harmful
influence when Anna prophesied over Him? (See Luke 2:36-38.) Was
Apollos spiritually emasculated when he submitted to the teaching of
Priscilla? (See Acts 18:26.) Of course not!

To associate godly women with Jezebel, a wicked Old
Testament despot, is unfair and offensive, yet men in the church today
often pin Jezebel’s label on strong, anointed women because they feel
threatened by them.

Let’s stop the insults. If a woman is using manipulation
to usurp authority or if she is spreading heresies, then she certainly
deserves the Jezebel label—as do men who do such things. But women who
walk in spiritual integrity and preach the Word of God with power
deserve our respect.

J. Lee Grady, editor of Charisma magazine, is the author of, Ten Lies the Church Tells Women (Creation House).


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