Do You Really Know the Father’s Love?

by | Oct 5, 2011 | Blogs, Fire in My Bones

Many people struggle to believe God loves them
because of a dysfunctional mom or dad.

This past weekend I spoke to some students at a
college in New Hampshire. Knowing that many young people today come from broken
homes (more than 1 million children today are the victims of divorce), I felt I
needed to talk to them about the fatherly heart of God. I wasn’t surprised when
several people’s eyes got misty as soon as I mentioned the word “father.”

What about you? Do you have emotional wounds
resulting from your upbringing? If so, these hurts can block your understanding
of God’s unconditional love
.”

What about you? Do you have emotional wounds
resulting from your upbringing? If so, such hurts can block your understanding
of God’s unconditional love. I encourage you to not only forgive your parents
but also to renounce unhealthy mindsets you may have adopted because of trauma.
Make sure you believe the following:

1. Your heavenly Father will never abandon you. Nothing is more traumatic
to a child than a family breakup. Children often blame themselves for
divorce—and they experience acute feelings of insecurity. They can also develop
the wrong idea that if their father or mother was willing to walk away from
them, God will do the same.

Believe the truth: God says, “I will never desert
you, nor will I ever forsake you” (Heb. 13:5
, NASB). Earthly parents may break
promises, but God is always faithful.

2. Your heavenly Father will never verbally berate
you.
I
recently met a girl whose parents wanted her to be a boy. As a result of their
disapproval, they criticized her constantly, told her she was ugly and demanded
that she stay in her room most of the time. As a result of this constant
criticism she struggled to receive love and found it difficult to believe God
could ever love her.

Believe the truth: The Lord is a loving Father who
speaks tenderly to His children; and even when He must discipline us, it is for
our good. James 5:11 says: “We … have seen the outcome of the Lord’s dealings,
that the Lord is full of compassion and is merciful.”

3. Your heavenly Father will never abuse you. I have an African friend,
Medad, whose cruel, domineering father beat him with the same stick he used to
beat his mother. Medad still has scars on his back, chest and stomach from his
father’s angry outbursts. Finally, his father piled the family into a car,
drove them into a rural area and ordered them to get out of the vehicle. He
cursed them and left them to die. His father’s behavior made Medad angry and
vengeful until he found salvation in Jesus.

Believe the truth: God is not an abuser. He is a
good Shepherd who protects us. If you were abused by someone, either
physically, sexually or verbally, recognize that God did not approve of that
behavior and He wants to heal you from the pain of that experience.

4. Your heavenly Father will never withhold
affection from you.
I’ve met dozens of men whose fathers never once said to them, “I love
you.” Many of these guys struggle today with addictions to alcohol, drugs and
other mind-numbing substances because they don’t know how to process the lack
of security they feel. And women who never received healthy, non-sexual
affection from their fathers often end up trapped in a promiscuous lifestyle
because they’re searching for the love they were denied.

Believe the truth: God is crazy about you and He
wants to shower you with love! Isaiah described God as a Shepherd who gathers
His lambs and carries them in His bosom (see Is. 40:11). As a believer in
Christ you always have access to the Father through the Holy Spirit (see Eph.
2:18). He wants you to be close to Him.

5. Your heavenly Father will never abandon you
financially.

A loving parent, no matter how small their income, can make a child feel secure
by providing food on the table, a warm bed and clothes to wear. Unfortunately,
in these days of deadbeat dads and struggling one-parent families, many people
grow up financially crippled. God doesn’t automatically give people Cadillacs
if they tithe, but any follower of Jesus can bank on God’s promises of
provision.

Believe the truth: Jesus said the Father knows we need food, clothes
and shelter. “Your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek
first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to
you” (Matt. 6:31-33). We serve a generous God.

6. Your heavenly Father will never act in an
unstable manner.
I have a friend whose father was a secret alcoholic. As a boy, my
friend never understood why his father was nice one day and angry the next. He
blamed himself for his dad’s erratic behavior—and to this day he still carries
some of the pain of that emotional trauma.

Believe the truth: God is not unstable. He never gets
drunk, high or out of control. 1 Sam. 15:29 says God “will not lie or change
His mind; for He is not a man that He should change His mind.” Circumstances
never affect God’s nature. He will always, always, always stay the same
.

No matter what fatherly wounds you may have
suffered, and no matter how long ago the pain entered, God can heal your heart
and fill in the gaps. Reach out and receive the Father’s embrace.

J. Lee Grady is the former editor
of Charisma. You can follow him on
Twitter a leegrady. His most recent book is 10 Lies Men Believe (Charisma House).

CHARISMA NEWSLETTERS

Stay up-to-date with current issues, Christian teachings, entertainment news, videos & more.

The latest breaking Christian news you need to know about as soon as it happens.

Prophetic messages from respected leaders & news of how God is moving throughout the world. 


MORE FROM CHARISMA

Why America Must Adopt the Battle Cry of Isaiah

Why America Must Adopt the Battle Cry of Isaiah

A battle cry is used to summon armies to war. A loud, unified shout could intimidate the strongest of enemies. Confidence in battle often tilts the scale toward victory, whereas timidity, fear and cowardliness will surely lead to defeat. In these dreadful times, don’t...

Intentionally Raising a Godly Generation

Intentionally Raising a Godly Generation

Debbie put her faith in Christ at age 11. In fact, her whole family met Jesus at just about the same time. As her parents began growing in their faith, they nurtured growth in their children as well. Family Bible reading, prayer and talking about God’s leading in...

Dream Big: How to Cultivate Divine Revelation While You Sleep

Dream Big: How to Cultivate Divine Revelation While You Sleep

Do you have any dreams from God that you have allowed to fall by the wayside? For some of you, it’s time to dream again. For some of you, it’s time to dust off your previous dreams. For some of you, it’s important to realize God is not late; He’s always on time. For...

Prophecy: God Is Bringing About Swift Turnarounds

Prophecy: God Is Bringing About Swift Turnarounds

In the month of August, God is bringing swift turnarounds so that your hard places will become a wide-open field. God is bringing about divine connections in order to strengthen the body of Christ. He is releasing faith for radical generosity, divine strategy to...

End-Times Truth: The Rapture Reveals a Split Church

End-Times Truth: The Rapture Reveals a Split Church

There are several resurrections and raptures in the Bible. I cannot understand those who argue that because there is no mention of the word "rapture" in the Bible they do not believe in it. They only believe in the Second Coming of the Lord. Some arguments are no...

Charisma Highlights: 7 Abilities for a New Agility in This Era

Charisma Highlights: 7 Abilities for a New Agility in This Era

Following are snippets of the top stories posted on charismamag.com over the past week. We encourage you to visit the links to read the stories in full. 7 Abilities for a New Agility in This Era The Lord first began speaking to me about the release of seven abilities...

As a Believer, Have You Been Hiding During This Culture War?

As a Believer, Have You Been Hiding During This Culture War?

Many years ago, Jesus went up on a mountain, sat down, and spoke to the group he was with: “You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all...

RECENT ARTICLES

10 Traits of Effective Churches During the Global Pandemic

In the past few years, the global pandemic has exposed the weaknesses of many local churches. Friends from around the world have told me that many churches have closed their doors for good. Although...
The Supernatural Secrets of Real Revival

The Supernatural Secrets of Real Revival

What does an authentic world-igniting revival look like? And, how are the seeds of revival planted? This we can learn from the life and work of William Joseph Seymour—God’s chosen vessel and apostle of the Azusa Street Revival.  Bishop William Joseph Seymour, was a...

Spiritually Speaking, How Healthy Is Your Heart?

Spiritually Speaking, How Healthy Is Your Heart?

Once a year, I go to the doctor and get a check-up. And every time, one of the things they do is check my heart. A good thorough exam will reveal if there are any problems that need to be addressed before a heart condition arises. I believe we need to do the same...

How You Can Begin to Heal From Unanswered Prayer

How You Can Begin to Heal From Unanswered Prayer

The best way to grow in the prophetic is to look at the past. As backwards as that sounds, Revelation 19:10 tells us, “For the testimony of Jesus is the Spirit of Prophecy.” In other translations, this is said, “For the essence of prophecy is to give a clear witness...

Living in the Tension of Two Distinct Worlds

Living in the Tension of Two Distinct Worlds

As a professional counselor, I have consoled hundreds of Christians through some of the most horrific life circumstances. Along with experiencing my own trials in life, it has caused me to deeply ponder the words of Scripture that refer to how we must learn to live in...

Kingdom Economics: Who Do You Trust?

Kingdom Economics: Who Do You Trust?

The Bureau of Economic Analysis (BEA) released its first of three estimates for second quarter Gross Domestic Product (GDP). Second-quarter inflation-adjusted (real) GDP fell at an annual rate of 0.9%, compared to a drop of 1.6% in the first quarter, and pre-report...

Pin It on Pinterest

[class^="wpforms-"]
[class^="wpforms-"]
[class^="wpforms-"]
[class^="wpforms-"]
[class^="wpforms-"]
[class^="wpforms-"]
[class^="wpforms-"]
[class^="wpforms-"]