I know that when a man hits his thumb with a hammer, even if his whole body is feeling good, it becomes the focus. A poor sex life is truly a sore thumb.

But, sex is more than intercourse and orgasm. There are times when things like traumas, disease, pregnancy or menopause prevent comfortable intercourse.

Sex should still permeate the relationship. Keep creative in being lovers with kisses and caresses that lead nowhere, or are fulfilled in varying ways (manual pleasuring may be one of them).

Let me encourage both of you not to give up but seek medical advice and counseling. Sometimes a sex life stops because one or both mates think it should.

There are often, not ideal, but creative solutions which God would want both of you to persistently pursue. He wants us to be lovers--not housemates.